May 162012

In an article in O magazine, Dr. David Burns, associate professor of psychiatry at Stanford University School of Medicine, reported on an intensive study he conducted with 1,500 people. The purpose of the study was to differentiate between what was happening with partners who were in a thriving, contented intimate relationship from those who were in a disappointing, miserable one. Burns found that “Only one thing emerged as having a causal impact on long-term satisfaction: blaming your partner for the problems in your relationship.” In other words, the one disparity between happy, flourishing partnerships and unhappy, failing ones was whether or not, and how intensely, they played the “blame game.”